I will never understand when family wants to be a part of your life but a social networking site is the only means of communication... and when that same site is the only means for sending birthday greetings to your parent it is just SAD!
You can't have it both ways. You shouldn't call when you need a shoulder, or advice and then let an impersonal public forum be the best you can manage on a birthday or Father's day or health inquiry.
I wish there was an opportunity to sit down as a group and talk. Perhaps it would clarify the statements made regarding the years we didn't travel to see you because of scheduling and expense but instead helped you to visit us every year. Maybe someone would explain the statement made letting me know I'm not really family and should butt out. It's been 28 years. If you haven't figured it out by now I'm here for the duration.
We've tried to be a family, and include everyone. You still don't get it do you.